Tag: personal-growth

When the one you trusted with your whole heart shatters the dreams you built together and dreams rooted in love, hope, and faith, the pain cuts deeper than words can ever express.

You’re so beautiful :

You meet someone. You spend time with them. You like them. You trust them. You care about them. One day, you realize you love them. You cherish every moment, every second, every breath you shared together. You do everything to keep that person in your life. You build a dream filled with a lot of hope and faith. You ignore their flaws. You forgive their insolent behavior. Then, suddenly, one day, they tell you they don’t feel the same way. They don’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore, and just like that, the relationship is over.

You just tried one more time :

You become speechless. You ask for forgiveness and a chance to make things right, incase you’ve done anything wrong. Sometimes you know you haven’t done anything wrong, but, still you apologize, just to make them stay in your life. You chase after them for just one more chance. You tell them how important they are in your life. You share everything you’ve imagined about that person, along with all the good and bad moments you’ve experienced with them. But instead of convincing them, it only makes them colder and more distant. They say hurtful things. They block you on social media. They don’t answer your calls. They refuse to see you again. They don’t respond to your texts. They try to push you away as much as they can with their rudeness.

Your love was real :

You start drowning in emotions. You cry. You begin to overthink. You recall every sentence and every word they said to you and how hurtful its. You know the words are extremely dismissive, deeply disrespectful, and painfully harsh. You know you don’t deserve it. It shakes your confidence, because those words came from someone you trusted and loved. You begin to lose focus on your work, your studies, and even yourself. You lose your presence of mind. Sometimes, you feel angry at them and you assume that they betrayed you, deceived you, and used you, but it’s not true. Your defense mechanism makes you think that way. Your insecurities and fear of future begin to grow. You lose your hope, confidence and faith. You feel there’s no purpose in your life, but again that’s not true. You start looking at their social media profiles and assume they’re seeing someone else. You compare yourself to others and begin to think you’re not good enough.

How beautiful they’re :

They truly cared about you. They made you happy. They made you feel special. They made you feel safe. They respected you and your boundaries. They gave you the warmth, comfort and love that you were longing for. They made you feel like they were the one. They said they love you.

You offered true love, care, loyalty and so much more :

And one day, everything disappears completely. You remember only the moments you shared together – their small, respectful gestures, the way they held your hands, a small peck on the cheek, movie nights, the beautiful times with them and many more.

You ask yourself so many questions:
Did they ever truly love you?
Did they mean it when they said, “I love you”?
Did you ever really mean anything to them?
Did they forget all the beautiful moments you shared?
Did they feel any guilt or sense of loss like you do?
Were you not beautiful or talented enough for them?
Were you the only one emotionally invested?
Was it really final?
Will they ever reach out to you again?
Did they already find someone better than you?

You realize that you noticed the discomfort on Day 3, but you ignored it. You realize they had already said no before, but you still held on to them throughout the relationship. You realize they treated you disrespectfully, but you stayed—because you had already offered them everything: your love, trust, loyalty, and so much more.

So this is how it ends with you :

You let them go, but you can’t let go of their harsh words. They said they loved you, but they also said, ‘Go away.’ They said you deserved respect, but in the end, they gave you only humiliation, disrespect, and a painful ending that will never be erased from your heart. They said they truly cared about you, but they ended things in a way that made it feel like they never did. So this is how they chose to end it with you.

You gave them the space they asked for :

You stop looking at their social media accounts. You stop chasing them. You no longer wait for their text and calls. You don’t wait for their birthday wishes. You block them on all social media accounts. You can’t stop thinking about them, but you try. You give them the space they asked for, not because you stopped loving them, but because you know who you’re.

You give them the space they asked for – to calm down, to forget the bad memories and remember the good ones, to realize what they lost, to understand who you’re and what you truly offered, to see whether they truly care about you or not.

You need time to heal :

You write down every word they said, how it made you feel, how you’re feeling right now, your thoughts, your pain, and your problems. Slowly, a sense of self-realization begins to grow within you.

You realize you’re in pain, that you’ve been through a lot in life. Somewhere, at some point, you lost your self-confidence. You forgot what you truly deserve and what you’re capable of. You forgot the importance of your mental and physical health.

You realize you need time to heal.

Stage 1 : Keep you and your environment clean :

You’re mentally tired and exhausted. Your mind feels blank. You have no hope, no faith, and no goals. You look at yourself in the mirror—your hair is messy, your face is grimy and tired, and your clothes are sweaty and filthy. You see no trace of hope or happiness in your reflection.

You clean yourself, wear nice clothes, comb your hair, and apply lip balm and face cream. You feel a bit more relaxed. You look at your desk, bed, and room—you know it’s very messy. You get up from your chair and start cleaning. You clean and arrange everything properly. Then you notice your cupboard—it’s disorganized too. You arrange it neatly. You do your laundry. You organize your books. One by one, things begin to fall into place.

Stage 2 : Notice your eating habits and physical fitness

Slowly, you begin to notice your body. You feel bad about your emotional eating and know you have little control over it.

You decide to take control of your mind and eating habits. You want to start working out, so you prepare a weight loss plan. Slowly, you begin to notice that you’ve gained control over your eating habits. Your body feels lighter. You see changes in your skin, your face, the way you look, and the way your mind feels.

This journey is not as easy as it seems. Every word they said echoes in your mind. You realize how hurtful it was—they questioned your morality, shattered your dignity, broke your trust, and left you in pain. But still, you stay strong because you know who you are. Their emotional immaturity, anger, and frustration do not define your worth.

Stage 3 : Find inner piece and happiness in the chaos :

On a random day, at 5 o’clock in the morning, while you’re asleep, you hear their voice, you remember your conversation the one you had in person. You see their face, and you’re reminded of them once again. Your heart sinks into sorrow all over again. Even though you’ve let them go from your life, you still can’t let them go from your memories. You will come back to zero again. You know you’re healing and it takes time. everything doesn’t fall into a place overnight. You need time for everything.

When someone you love pulls away and says hurtful things like “I don’t care about you anymore,” it shakes the very foundation of how you see yourself. Your mind doesn’t hear it as “they don’t care.” Instead, it translates it into: “I’m not lovable,” “Maybe I’m not good enough,” “If I were truly valuable, they wouldn’t have left,” and so many more painful thoughts. It turns inward and begins blaming itself, leading to low self-worth, overthinking, and a constant loop of “What’s wrong with me?”

You overload your mind with heartbreak, confusion, and negativity, forgetting how deeply it affects your mental health. Slowly, you begin to lose your sense of self-worth. You spend more time thinking about them than thinking about yourself. But you take a pause for a moment and ask yourself:

• How much time am I spending on my goals?
• How much time am I investing in my hobbies?
• How much time am I giving to my self-care?
• How much attention am I paying to my mental well-being?
• How much effort am I putting into my physical health?
• How much time am I truly spending on myself?

You know you need to focus your mind on your mental well-being. It’s more important than anything else. You make your mental well-being a priority and work on it every day.

Stage 4 : You grow

You notice that their absence has created a silence in your mind. You feel less excited. You stop doing the things that once brought you joy—like listening to music, watching TV series and movies, scrolling through reels, fantasizing, and more. But you realize something more important: this is a good time to break your bad habits and start doing things that help you grow.

It’s not easy. You want to see them one more time. You want to talk to them again, even just once. You’re willing to forgive and forget everything—just for them. All you long for is a smile, a small text, a sign. It’s hope that keeps you going and pushes you toward better things. Whether they come back or not, you choose to grow and become a better person.

You improve your communication. You develop a new hobby of reading books. You become more focused on your work and studies. You complete the certifications you had been trying to finish for years. You pay more attention to details than you used to.